July, 2008
Carol Adrienne, Ph.D.

Whenever we are not bogged down in daily details, our ever-active minds often feel the need to haul out the big, big ideas.  It seems we can’t help trying to figure out why things happen.  We struggle with core questions, such as, Who am I?  Or, What is going on?

When confronted with these questions--being a numerologist--I first look for the clues and patterns hidden in names and birth dates.  After that consideration, the next step is to begin to notice how we tend to think about the world, and what motivates us to make the choices we do.  If we do things motivated by fear or insecurity, the result often matches that initial perspective.

A third consideration in looking for answers (if you are open to the idea) is probing for the reason we took birth in this lifetime.  Perhaps we wanted to work on something specific, such as completing a relationship with someone we knew from another lifetime, developing a talent, or experiencing a completely different life than we previously had. Sometimes there is no particular plan or reason at all.  We are free to develop our path or “dharma” as we will, hopefully not adding any karmic loads!
   
Using numerology I will try to make some points for the reader who sent me the following question.  To provide anonymity, I will use initials only for her birth name.

Disappointment in Marriage

Hi Carol,
Wondering if you can provide insight through a short numerological profile regarding my disappointment in marriages.  At the age of 43, I have been married three times.  It is disheartening to even think about legalizing a formal commitment.  I have been raised traditionally and followed that path, but I have been disappointed in the aftermath.

I have learned many lessons through my marriages, the shortest being six months and the others seven years and ten years.  I have two daughters from the ten-year marriage.  I am going with a wonderful, loving, kind man who I know wants to marry me in the future.  I am hesitant and wonder if numerology can provide some understanding. My birth name:  C L S (born 7-23-1964).

Dear Hesitant,

You May Have some Karma to Finish
The first thing I notice about your chart is that you have three of the four numbers designated in numerology as “karmic numbers.”  These numbers appear in your three most influential positions. First is your Birth Path number 14/5 (natural tendencies from your birth date total)—the explorer and change-seeker.  Briefly, the 14/5 indicates that you chose (before birth) to be a little different in your lifestyle, choices, or thinking.  Usually a Birth Path 14/5 is not prone to fit into tight-fitting traditional roles in marriage or family.  Fourteen can attract strong personalities, conflicts, or even problems with physical addictions.

Your second karmic number—13/4—is found in your Destiny, which is calculated from your birth name.  It describes your type of life circumstances, lessons, and accomplishments. The practical (and transformative) 13/4 life lesson tends to involve questions about when to persevere and when to move on (i.e., in marriage or other situations.)  It’s not unlikely that you may have had a karmic debt that you wanted to repay to each of your three husbands!  Having the energetic and curious 5 Day of Birth and 5 Birth Path may have given you the idea (as you planned this lifetime) that you could do a lot of karma clearing in one lifetime.  It may seem easier to do in the spiritual plane, than it is once we are dealing with material reality!

Finding a Balance with Commitment and Freedom
Another pattern I see in your name makes me wonder about the possibility that, in a recent previous lifetime, you might have been a charismatic figure (possibly an actor) who had many love affairs, but never settled down.  I know this may sound weird, but your combination of the 5 Birth Path with the 4 Destiny seems to indicate that you want to explore the duality of  “how to maintain your sense of uniqueness—the 14/5—and still have marriage and security—the 13/4.”  I hope this makes sense to you!

Two numbers are missing from your birth name.  They are 6 (marriage and divorce; family; responsibility; teaching) and 4 (discipline; determination; practicality.)  Missing numbers often pinpoint the very places we will learn the most for this lifetime, and in your case you have a 4 Destiny, making it clear that you must try and try again.  However, one caveat.  Do you find a pattern in your nature of being attracted to men whom you think you must encourage and support or even “rescue?”  You will be fine as along as you find a man who can stand on his own two feet, while you pursue your interests as well and not lose yourself!

Everything Happens for a Reason
I suggest that you will feel more spiritually healed as you become less self-critical in thinking so harshly about your past relationships.  Your comment about being disheartened about making a legal and formal commitment sounds like you are a little shut down now in your heart!  With your untraditional 14/5 Birth Path, maybe you need to let go of formalities and just be who you are in the great relationship you now have!  Sometimes two lovely people forget how much they like each other as they get enmeshed in this “third entity” called marriage. 

That was Then, This is Now
For you, the period from age forty-one to forty-nine--which is where you are now--is ruled by the number 1.  This nine-year period is meant to encourage you to be independent, self-confident, and find a new (positive) way of looking at life.  Any partnership now must not be co-dependent, but lovingly interdependent as you both support the growth of each other.  From age 50 onwards, you learn to love unconditionally and have many opportunities for joy, travel, and exploring the world.  This year of 2008 is a 4 Personal Year for you, which creates opportunities to develop your 4 Destiny!

For those interested in learning more about reincarnation and the reasons we take birth as reported by those in regression studies, I highly recommend, Hans TenDam’s book, Exploring Reincarnation (his website is http://www.tasso.nl) as well as Dr. Michael Newton’s book, Journey of Souls.  Other books by Edith Fiore, Ph.D., and Dr. Brian Weiss, and Carol Bowman are also fascinating studies in this field.

13/4 indicates a desire to complete karma with someone and transform that unresolved energy. Life can bring radical reversals both good and challenging. Strong desire to meet one’s obligations and bring balance despite hardships.

14/5 indicates a strong need for freedom and resistance to loss of control. Life can involve feelings of restlessness, physical issues; affairs; obsessions, abrupt changes, or a desire to resist being trapped.

16/7 indicates lessons involving betrayal, unexpected loss, and learning to trust one’s intuition. Life can bring disappointment, skepticism; spiritual transformation.

19/1 indicates possible past lives in which suffering resulted from being an unpopular leader, heretical, socially radical, or standing out from the crowd. A feeling of anxiety about how others see you or self-doubt can hold you back from developing new ideas because of an irrational fear of repercussion.

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Post Script
Last month we did an analysis for HB (see the May, 2008 column.)  Her question concerned a lack of confidence in her choice to study for a masters in development studies (to fulfill a desire to do good in the world.) She was finding it hard to keep motivated. She responds with this update:

Your answer was quite astonishing. While I've looked vaguely into numerology before, you brought the interaction between numbers to life.  I was amazed at how much I related to your descriptions.

Those numbers certainly explained the subconscious drive that has really propelled me to explore the world, even when this option didn't seem the logical choice to friends and family, and sometimes myself. The idea of 'settling down' has never held any desire for me at all, even when this has meant that I've left partners and possessions. And the numbers explained the timing of my return to university when I was 28, when after months, possibly years, of inquiring about subjects I finally found development studies.

Uncannily, in the time between sending the email question and receiving your response, I thought long and hard about my motivations, realizing that it was my approach to study that was bringing me down. By looking at the course from another perspective--instead of seeing the boring content-- I looked for a job that looked inspiring.  I decided that disaster relief was what interested me. I asked everyone what they thought of the idea and received unanimous support that this was 'perfect for you!' And then I read your answer suggesting something 'edgy and for the benefit of others'. Everything seems to fit.

Suddenly, the study has become more inspirational.  Instead of getting bogged down in the abstract notion of long-term benefit from study, I found motivation in a more visible and interesting goal.  So, thank you very much. Your answer clarified the decisions I've been making recently, while adding a little more detail, which is really encouraging. I'll certainly be keeping my fingers crossed that the positive outcomes you saw in other areas of life also eventuate!

Happy July
Carol Adrienne
Carol Adrienne, Ph.D. is an intuitive counselor and life coach who has helped thousands of people work through doubt, procrastination, and obstacles to create the life they want to live. Private consultations and coaching available. Contact her at Carol@caroladrienne.com   For submission of email questions, please see note below.

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